tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5150682924297950441.post2649335361863170535..comments2023-06-14T02:59:00.479-07:00Comments on The (In)fertility Diaries: People Just Don't Get ItBrownirishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05968155365863127002noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5150682924297950441.post-40145184398772639942010-10-23T07:52:34.509-07:002010-10-23T07:52:34.509-07:00Gotta love the in-laws. We're also adopting an...Gotta love the in-laws. We're also adopting and my in-laws think it's just a matter of finding someone and handing over the baby. We have tried and tried to explain it just doesn't work like that. I just bought them a book called "Adoption is a Family Affair" and I hope they take the time to read it. We'll see...<br /><br />~ICLW<br /><br />Oh by the way, I'm a new follower!KAMhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18261499044344019218noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5150682924297950441.post-26752312157044070272010-10-21T08:00:54.425-07:002010-10-21T08:00:54.425-07:00I haven't had any conversations like these, bu...I haven't had any conversations like these, but I've heard so many similar ones from other adoptive parents that I assume I'll have to deal with this from someone at some point. I absolutely dread the idea. Which is pretty much why we haven't told anyone we're adopting... ;)Joyful Hopehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05987839620123555058noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5150682924297950441.post-23163578877719831162010-10-20T20:47:37.445-07:002010-10-20T20:47:37.445-07:00Yikes! Just reading this conversation made me feel...Yikes! Just reading this conversation made me feel uncomfortable, I can't imagine. I'm sorry, this must add a whole bunch more stress. <br /><br />Thinking of youP. Martenshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03503509826827932251noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5150682924297950441.post-71568251249525687012010-10-20T07:45:41.778-07:002010-10-20T07:45:41.778-07:00Wow - it was like an interview with a reporter! Th...Wow - it was like an interview with a reporter! There are so many common misconceptions about adoption. In the beginning, when we started the process to adopt domestically, I e-mailed a couple articles out to family and friends to help "educate" them. And, I've continue to post things on my Facebook page, like one today - 8 things to never say to an adopted kid. Sometimes that stuff helps, but of course not always...Hopefully you won't come home from work one day and see a Colombian child and your MIL sitting on your doorstep. lol. Good luck with everything!Mehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18039460517337016255noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5150682924297950441.post-29808361884264667102010-10-19T19:54:46.556-07:002010-10-19T19:54:46.556-07:00We've had a few frustrating conversations like...We've had a few frustrating conversations like that. Thankfully none from family. It is tough though to try to explain it in a way that will make people "get it." Point her in my direction and I'll give her a rundown of what is actually involved with international adoption. LOL!Heatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11568731053148296398noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5150682924297950441.post-83191971885656989492010-10-19T19:34:57.838-07:002010-10-19T19:34:57.838-07:00This sounds a lot like the conversation I had with...This sounds a lot like the conversation I had with my MIL when I told her that we were stopping infertility treatments. Ugh!!! Sometimes it's just too much and people want to know too much information and then when you tell them the information they still don't understand it. Sigh .... I think you and your DH handled the situation really well.Suzannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14631486802337369463noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5150682924297950441.post-67332126616502964802010-10-19T16:04:54.265-07:002010-10-19T16:04:54.265-07:00Ugh! I was waiting for the part where she suggest...Ugh! I was waiting for the part where she suggested you just go take a baby off the street. My mother in law is the same in a lot of ways. I have sent her numerous emails on adoption, adoption terminology and all sorts of other adoption related info. She still says some of the most ridiculous things. I just want to scream. You handled it much better than I do.Mrs. Chapman's 2nd Grade Classhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09885141816751077141noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5150682924297950441.post-30770855234824218612010-10-19T09:46:10.780-07:002010-10-19T09:46:10.780-07:00Sounds like the conversations in our family as wel...Sounds like the conversations in our family as well.... We finally just stopped talking about the process and said that when we know something we will let you know and until then please don't ask because this process is harder for us than you. We have a niece who is 5 a nephew who is 3 mths a little brother who is 2-1/2 and another little brother on the way so all anyone talks about is BABIES!!!! Keep strong and know that God's plan is in action :) JS and Jhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14047844102276318383noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5150682924297950441.post-39590089611805843272010-10-19T06:40:59.975-07:002010-10-19T06:40:59.975-07:00ugh, she doesn't get it at all, does she? That...ugh, she doesn't get it at all, does she? That's so frustrating and ridiculous...I would be tempted to tell her sternly that you two know what the best path for a baby is for you, and that's that. No more questions. UGH.<br /><br />And yes, family gatherings are totally dominated by babies right now with my 3 yo niece and 6 month old nephew. They're super cute, but it does get old...ALhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09150067629614839175noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5150682924297950441.post-17073960712409390212010-10-19T06:28:49.835-07:002010-10-19T06:28:49.835-07:00we have one niece and that's all anyone talks ...we have one niece and that's all anyone talks about anymore, i love her too but it's not as much fun when it's not your child they are ooohing overEverlyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04460013246038968283noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5150682924297950441.post-42768416319179633792010-10-19T05:24:35.715-07:002010-10-19T05:24:35.715-07:00Totally agree with you. My mom used to talk only a...Totally agree with you. My mom used to talk only about our nephews and while I love them to pieces too, it was just too much.<br /><br />Oh, and I can't stand those sweeping, uninformed statements!!! My mom makes them often and it's the same repeated answer that you gave: it's just not that simple. <br /><br />I'm so sorry you had this frustrating time with them. Hugs to you!myinfertilitywoeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00537466634453988773noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5150682924297950441.post-17667392532961669062010-10-19T02:15:55.425-07:002010-10-19T02:15:55.425-07:00Oh my, how frustrating that she just.didn't.ge...Oh my, how frustrating that she just.didn't.get.it. I agree with the above comment, but seriously, it's hard enough on you with the waiting. I wish she could have been a bit more compassionate for you, but I guess she means well. You are 100% right about all the things you said. <br />Take careAnxiousMummyto3https://www.blogger.com/profile/13249605078664682478noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5150682924297950441.post-58367025542843868632010-10-18T20:51:42.151-07:002010-10-18T20:51:42.151-07:00Ugh. No, they just don't get it. In some way...Ugh. No, they just don't get it. In some ways it's nice she's excited enough to be like this - just think what she'll be like when she can put this energy to fussing over your child! - but difficult that she won't just accept that you know what you're doing and trying to not adopt! :-)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com