Now that we are approved with our adoption agency and are waiting to be chosen by a birth mom, I don't really feel like I have a lot to say. It seems like things with TTC have slowed WAY down. It is nice, but it is also really strange. It is strange to see EWCM and think that I am Oing, yet not stress about BD at the right time. It is strange to not be tracking by BBT or to not automatically know what CD I am on. Like I said, it is nice in some ways because there isn't that stress hanging over you and I find that I am not constantly over-analyzing every "symptom" that I may have, but it is still strange.
DH and I have started looking online and doing some window shopping for baby items. It feels weird to be talking about what crib to buy or which stroller is best when I am not pregnant. Sometimes I feel like an outsider when I am looking through the baby section, and I just have to remind myself that I have every right to be there, because one day (hopefully in the near future) I am going to need all of this stuff. My question is, if you went through/are going through adoption, how early on did you start buying baby stuff? Part of me wants to start getting things now, but I am nervous that maybe we won't need it for a while. What if we buy it, and then it takes years for us to get a baby? Or what if they come out with newer/better products? What if we don't buy anything, and then we get a call saying that we have a baby and we are unprepared? Any advice would be helpful!
Also, DH and I are FINALLY going to our appointment with the genetics counselor on Thursday. I have been waiting for this appointment ever since we got my chromosome test results in May. I am not thinking that this appointment will change any of our plans, but it will still be good to have the information and feel like we are moving forward with as much knowledge as possible. I will post about the appointment later this week.
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S and I had a difference of opinion on the topic of buying baby items. I want to be prepared and buy things slowly so that we don't have to fork over a ton of $ all at once and then stress about that and he wanted to wait until we got matched. I explained to him that we may get matched with a BM that is 6 mths pregnant or we may get a call saying your baby was just born so we need to be prepared either way. Basically he finally just gave in hehe and we have been buying items here and there (no clothes or diapers tho) and are getting gender neutral items as well in case we get a boy or a girl. :) J
ReplyDeleteI continue to pray for the day DH changes his mind towards adoption. I would adopt today if he said ok but until then I keep praying.
ReplyDeleteGood luck on your journey and I pray the wait is short.
I can imagine how odd it is to be in the place you are - you will have a baby someday, but you don't know when that is, just that it will happen.
ReplyDeleteBut, you ARE expecting and you have every right to be preparing :-). Very exciting!
We looked at strollers the other day, and I think mcclaen is safe to buy now. They have one you can use with an infant seat up to 65 lbs, with lifetime warranty, so that might be a safe buy. I would do it gradually :)
ReplyDeletei don't know when you buy stuff. I think maybe after I have met the birthparents I will buy a few onesies and diapers. and then a car seat i guess. everything else can wait until I have the baby in my arms. but i most definitely window shop. but i may decorate a nursery. I don't know. it is tricky stuff.
ReplyDeleteI'm not in the same position as you, but I'll give you my 2-cents anyway :)
ReplyDeleteFor the most part, you don't need everything right away. There is a lot of stuff that you can get as you need it. A car seat is probably the most important thing to have right away--you need to be able to bring the little one home! I would recommend doing all the research and spend some time shopping around for deals now. That way when you get "the call" you'll know what you want and you can get it then, right? If you find a great buy on something that you love--then of course buy it!
I hope your wait isn't long!
I'm way to much of a jaded infertile to actually start buying things, other that the dragon painting I mentioned the other day. I did buy the 8th edition of Baby Bargins a couple months ago, but it's still in a drawer. OTOH, we'll have plenty of time after our referral to buy what we need. With domestic adoption things could move much faster. I did feel like an imposter when we browsed the baby section at target, but you are right, we have just as much a right to be there as a pregnant woman.
ReplyDeleteCongrats on moving forward with the adoption process. (((hugs)))
ReplyDeleteI think you are allowed to look at stuff - it's exciting and that's the only thing that makes it real! Good luck in your waiting.
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