Sunday, October 10, 2010

Decisions, Decisions

I feel like there are quite a few decisions to make right now...none of them are really big decisions. You know, the kind where you are at a crossroads and the decision is going to have a huge impact on your life. But, still decisions to make anyway.

The first, and maybe the easiest, is regarding a baby shower. DH's mom and aunt have approached me about giving me a baby shower. I think that DH's mom would prefer to do it sooner than later, "just in case". They said that it could be gender neutral, since I obviously have no clue whether we will adopt a boy or a girl. I am kind of torn on the shower. Of course I want to have a baby shower one day, but it kind of seems awkward to do one now.

My concerns about doing a shower this early are:

1. Who knows how long it will be before we get a baby. What if we have a shower now, and then we don't get a baby for a couple of years, and I want different things?
2. Will people even want to come to a shower for me, since I am not pg and have not been matched?
3. I really am not this superstitious, but what if I jinx myself by doing this?

On the other hand, it might be nice to have an early shower, just in case we really do get matched with someone and don't have a long time to prepare.

If anyone is reading this has had past experience or suggestions, I would LOVE to hear what you have to say!

My next decision is about our adoption profile. Right now, I have an online profile listed with our agency and another one listed with I chose to put our profile with Hoping to Adopt because I had a free two month trial. Well, the two month trial is coming to an end, and I haven't really seen much traffic. According to the profile statistics, we have had plenty of people view the profile, but nobody has contacted us from it. The monthly fee for listing our profile is only around $30 (I think), so it isn't like it is a huge expense, but why pay $30 if it isn't doing any good? I have a friend who's family member got a ton of traffic from Parent Profiles, but that website is around $90/month. I just don't know if it is worth it to list our profile with so many different places. I have thought about cancelling the profile with Hoping to Adopt and trying Parent Profiles for a couple months, but I just don't know.

Last, I have been considering switching to a different OB/GYN. When I went for my annual exam last January, I did not have a good experience. I have always liked her before, but that appointment left a sour taste in my mouth. I really didn't like that she didn't listen to me and brushed my concerns aside. What if I stick with her, have concerns in the future, and then have the same problems. On the other hand, I have always liked her before then, so maybe it was just a fluke...especially since she had been running late. I just don't know...but if I am going to stick with her, I need to schedule my annual now. I am leaning towards making another appointment to see her for my annual exam, and then depending on how things go, I will decide whether or not to stay with her in the future.


  1. Sounds like you are really thinking things through. I know what you mean about decisions that aren't life altering, but still need to be made. I'm sure you'll make the right choices for you.

  2. I think it makes sense to give your doctor another chance. But you don't want to be stuck with a doctor who doesn't listen to you either! The shower idea is a tough one, but I think I would wait a little longer. Take care

  3. Would you want to do a "meet the baby" shower? Those are becoming more popular, though the downside is you may not have everything you need before baby comes home.

    I had an "off" appointment with my OBGYN but I gave her another chance and ended up liking her... I think sometimes OBs can be very busy and lose focus. Not a great thing, but they are only human too. I think giving yours one more try is a good plan.

  4. Lots of decisions to make! I too will suggest a 'meet the baby shower', that way the baby is there so everyone can meet him/her and they'll know the gender. Plus, you'll get all the 'latest and greatest' stuff, not last months latest and greatest, kwim? You could of course start an online registry and update it as things change, so you aren't starting from scratch while taking care of your new baby.

    Maybe try one more month of the hoping to adopt? $30 is a lot less then $90 a month, so I would try that a bit longer before going to the bigger site.

    Good luck, hope you are doing well other wise :)