Sunday, July 25, 2010

Birth Parent Letter

I have been working on our birth parent letter for the past couple of weeks. I want it to be sincere and come across as a true representation of us, but I also worry about it appearing cheesy. So, I have tried to just write it as if I was writing an introduction of our family rather than completely focusing on adoption/birth parents/IF/etc. This is what I have so far... I would LOVE any comments or suggestions! Also - for the sake of this letter, I am just going to use our initials.


Thank you so much for taking a minute to get to know our family better. We became a family of two when we were married August 29, 2006. Although we have had a lot of fun together over the past few years, we are looking forward to becoming a family of three.

We met while attending the same single’s ward in 2005. We quickly became best friends, although M wished that things would move beyond just friendship. L eventually came around, and we began to date in 2006. Many of our friends joke about how M would try and persuade L to date him, and she would find ways to get out of it. The good thing about being best friends before we dated is that we were able to see each other in so many different situations without the stresses that a relationship can bring. We were able to truly get to know each other, and we attribute this to how strong our marriage is now.

We like to have a lot of fun! Some of our favorite activities include boating, riding 4-wheelers, camping, traveling, watching movies, and spending time with family and friends. We also both love music (M plays the drums and L plays the piano). During the week, we will typically spend our evenings at home, and then on the weekend, we will go on a date, go out to dinner, or spend time with friends. We realize that some of our activities may change after we have a child, but we think that as a family we will still be able to have a good time and our home will still be a fun and happy place.

We both come from large families that play important parts in our lives. M has two brothers and one sister; L has three sisters and one brother; and we both have large extended families. We have regular family dinners with each side of our families. We enjoy spending time with our families…some of the things we do together include playing games, date nights, camping, and travel.

More about M:
M is the oldest of four children. He was born and raised in Utah. Growing up, M enjoyed playing the drums, cars, 4-wheeling, and spending time with friends. M has played the drums in several bands, including one that had a song played on the radio. He loves mustangs and racing cars. Before we got married, M rebuilt a Mustang and turned it into a racecar. Now that M no longer has his Mustang, he loves to ride 4-wheelers. His favorite place to go riding is the Sand Dunes. M works as a manager at a credit union.

More about L:
L is the oldest of five children. She was born in Southern California and moved to Utah when she was three. L learned to play the piano when she was younger, and still enjoys playing today. L also loves to cook, make crafts, read, and travel. Some of her goals include composing piano music and visiting every continent (except Antarctica…that is just too cold). L works as a nurse; she chose nursing because she knew it would be flexible when she became a mom.

Another important member of our family is our dog, Faline. She is a miniature pinscher and she has been part of our family since November 2006. She can be a little sassy at times, but she is also very loving and loyal. She loves to spend time with us, our family, and our friends. We often joke that Faline has been an “only child” for too long and that she is overdue to be a big sister.

Thanks for stopping by and getting to know us. If you would like to get to know us better, please feel free to check out our blog: or e-mail us at .

M, L, and Faline


  1. That sounds perfect! It really shines through that you guys will be able to add a child to your lives without having to change everything. I love the paragraph about Faline!

  2. I don't have experiencee with these letters, but this sounds fantastic to me! It's focusing on family as a whole, which is a great way of showing your commitment. Good job, lady!

  3. I really like the way you worded your letter....All to often when I have read some other peoples letters it was like they were sellling themselves instead of really talking about themselves...Im sure you have read letters like this before:) Yours is great:)

  4. The letter is wonderful. Wishing you the very best.

    An ICLW Visit from #107 (mfi, speedskating, strength)
    liddy @ the unfair struggle

  5. That's a great letter. I've been working on ours for about 6 weeks and can't seem to move forward at all. Yours is really good though. Congratulations on finishing this step! It's a big one.