Monday, May 17, 2010

I'm Back!!!

I feel like I haven't been able to blog in forever! DH, our families, and I just got home from a fun-filled vacation to Charleston, SC and Nashville, TN. I think that everyone had a great time, even though at times it could be a little hectic arranging plans for 13 people. Even though it was nice to get away, I am still glad to be home.

I think that I am finally coming to grips with the fact that we are either facing IVF or adoption. Sometimes, I feel really excited about this because it means that we are no longer stalled, but we know what our problems have been and we are moving forward with a plan. Other times, it freaks me out. What if they say that they don't think they can get a quality embryo? What if this? What if that? One bright spot is that I think that my insurance will pay for the pregenetic diagnosis on the embryos if we go that route. I was reading my explanation of benefits, and there was a section about how they cover embryo genetic testing if one of the parents has a known genetic condition that could be passed on and would pose the risk of a serious problem. I am hoping that if they do pay for that, that there is also a chance that just maybe they would pay for at least part of IVF...I mean you can't do the testing without doing IVF, right?

With adoption stuff, DH and I were originally planning on going through the agency associated with our church, because the max we would pay would be around $10,000 and our insurance will cover $8000 of that. The only problem is that because they are more affordable, they tend to have a much longer placement time. I started looking into some other agencies, and now we are just trying to decide if it would be better to pay more money and hopefully get a baby faster (and hope that any tax refunds we received would help pay off the loan), or if we should just stick with the other agency. If there is anyone reading this who has gone/is going through adoption, what would you recommend?

Anyway, that is just a quick update on me. I will try and blog more later and also get caught up on everyone else's blogs.


  1. I haven't been through a traditional adoption, but I have been through an embryo adoption (EA) through the National Embryo Donation Center in Knoxville, TN. My husband and I are carriers for a rare genetic disorder, so EA was a great option for us--especially because I really wanted to experience another pregnancy, without worrying about losing another child to ZS.

    There are no guarantees with EA, but then again there aren't any with traditional adoption either. Some friends of ours just had a birth mother back out as the last minute--that was really hard on them after being matched for 6+ months and waiting/preparing for this baby to be born.

    I hope you find your path soon, good luck on your journey!

  2. Glad you enjoyed your trip! I've wondered the same thing since the adoption agency affiliated with our church seems to have a much longer wait time. I'd love to hear what you find out, which path you decide to pursue.

  3. Happy return :) Glad you had a fantastic vacation!

  4. Welcome back, glad to hear the vacay was wonderful!! Thinking of you as you narrow down your path, whichever you decide to pursue just keep reminding yourself you're just one step closer to your baby. Thinking of you!