Tuesday, March 16, 2010

The Cat's Out of the Bag

Geez...it seems like it has been FOREVER since I have had time to blog!

On Friday, DH and I went to a wedding for DH’s cousin. During the wedding luncheon, I had a long chat with my MIL about our TTC efforts. DH had already given her some details (i.e. we are seeing a specialist and having testing done), but she had a few questions. I also got the impression that she has shared some of our struggles with at least one of her sisters. Sure enough, DH’s aunt (I’ll call her K) and I had a long talk about TTC during the wedding reception. K is great. She is always so sweet and concerned, but never imposing. K came over and sat by me and said “I know it is none of my business, but I know you have been trying to get pg for a while and have had a m/c. I wanted to make sure you had heard about Factor 5”. I guess Factor 5 runs pretty heavily in DH’s extended family; I know of at least five of his cousins who have it. K said that she didn’t know if a man could be a carrier and if so, if it would affect his sperm. She also said that from what her daughter’s doctors have said, Factor 5 is really common, with possibly 25% of women having it. I also ended up telling K about this blog, so she is the first person IRL to know about it besides DH. Later during the evening, I talked with K’s daughter about TTC. She lost her baby in October when she was 37 weeks and has had another m/c since then. She wondered how things were going for us, so I just gave her a quick update.

To be honest, I didn’t really mind talking about all of this with them. Everybody was concerned and meant well. I know that it will help because there are no more questions of “When am I going to get another grandchild?”, “Do you have anything new to share?”, or “When are you guys going to have kids?” I also believe that there is strength in numbers. I think that it can help when you know that your family is supporting you and praying for you.

In other news, I am still waiting to hear if my insurance company will pay for the genetic testing. The genetic counselor that we have been working with said that she hoped that she would hear by yesterday at the latest, and I still haven’t heard back. I was hoping to have the test done by now because it can take three weeks to get the results back, and I really want the results before I go in for my RE appointment on April 6. My cycle also has seemed a little wonky during the past few days. I saw a huge jump in my temperature this morning, but I haven’t gotten a peak on the CBEFM. CD 13 seems a little early for my temperature to go up, so hopefully it is just a fluke.


  1. I'm glad you feel supported by DH's family. it helps me to have the family know what's going on, too. I like that they understand or at least try to and don't pry about another grandchild from us.

    I hope they continue to be a great support for you!

  2. I'm so glad you had someone IRL to chat about all this stuff. She sounds great.