Sunday, March 21, 2010

Welcome ICLW and My Thoughts on This Cycle

First, if you are new to my blog, welcome! You can learn more about me by visiting this post. In a nutshell, DH and I have been married since August 2006 and have been TTC since November 2008. We got KU in December 2008, has a m/c in January 2009, and haven't had any success since then.

So, I am already starting to feel like this cycle is likely a bust. It didn't help that my CBEFM never picked up a "peak" - I think that this is likely because I O'd so much earlier than normal. Based on my temps, I O'd on CD 12. Last cycle it was closer to CD 20, so I feel like my body is all over the place. My temps have been good, but I have had very few, if any, phantom symptoms. My boobs hurt a little bit this morning, but that is already gone. The frustrating thing is that my pelvic pain has been bothering me the last few days. I used to think that it was related to when I O'd but maybe not? I try and tell myself that it is all in my head, since the u/s didn't pick up on anything abnormal. I just don't think I can totally brush it off since I notice it at the most random times.

Anyway, besides the cycle, life is good. DH and I went to look at cars yesterday, and we ended up coming home with a Nissan Xterra. It was a good compromise for us. We traded in our Yukon and DH wanted a truck, while I wanted something smaller. We are looking forward to the weather getting warmer so that we can take it out camping and try pulling our 4-wheelers with it.

I have also noticed lately that I have been feeling a lot happier and less stressed. That probably doesn't make much sense when I was just venting about my cycle and I have recently expressed concern over the chromosome testing. I have just noticed that it is becoming easier for me to not focus and dwell on TTC and IF all the time. It is something I still think about, but it is not the central focus of my thoughts. It is getting easier for me to be around my pg BFF and genuinely be interested in how her pg is going. I was even thinking that perhaps I would make her a baby quilt and I started thinking about what I could do to give her a baby shower. I don't want to say that I am 100% happy and good, but I am better and I don't feel like IF and TTC is ruling my life. It is part of me, but I am in control. I know that there will still be hard days and hard times, but at least they are becoming fewer.

11 comments:

  1. I'm glad you're feeling more centered and not letting TTC and IF rule your existence...I've been working on that too. I hope this cycle gets you a surprise bfp :-).

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  2. That's so awesome IF is not controlling who you are. I'm dealing with the exact same thing, bff is preggers and I'm having a very hard time with it. All we can do it take it day by day, and you're right...at the end of the day we are in control!! Good luck this month, surprise bfp would be amazing!!

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  3. I love your last paragraph about IF not controlling you lately. How awesome! I hope the calm reflects good things to come this cycle. :)

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  4. It's hard not to let IF control you so I am so happy for you that you are able to do that. I'm looking forward to reading more of your blog.

    ICLW #28

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  5. It is great that you are starting to feel happy again. IF can rule our lives and emotions sometimes despite our best efforts. It is important to reconnect with yourself every now and then while cycling and to take care of yourself.

    Best wishes on your journey.

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  6. Thanks for your comment on my blog. Here's to you feeling more in control of your IF and ttc journey.

    xxx

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  7. Here from ICLW. I'm happy to come across someone who is not letting IF control everything. That can be tough.

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  8. When my SIL and BF were pg in 2008, I chrocheted afghans for each of them. I wasn't comfortable being around them since I was in my 'wildly miserable' phase but it did make me feel better that I gave each of them something heartfelt.

    ICLW
    http://daega99-arewethereyet.blogspot.com/

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  9. Thanks for stopping by my blog. That was good advice about saying "Do I want to eat __ or have a baby" Right now it really does come down to that. Thanks.

    That is a tough situation, having a pg bff. Sounds like you're handling it gracefully. Glad you're more happy and centered.

    Happy ICLW!

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  10. It's a tough boat to be in--those around you being pg while you struggle with IF. Please know that you aren't alone, and kudos to YOU for not letting IF control your life. Glad to "meet" you.

    Happy ICLW! (#141)

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  11. I found it really important to have lots of other things going on in life to look forward to when we were TTC, and glad to hear you are finding that this is working well for you! Best wishes for this cycle, fingers crossed it's the one. ICLW

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